The Virtue Game: Play Along at Home

Now it’s your turn!

Here’s how it is going to work: I am going to list sixty-some-odd virtues. You are going to read through the list and see which words get a reaction out of you. Which words do you confidently gloss past? Which words cause you to cringe a little bit? If you want to get really serious about it, for each virtue rate yourself on a scale from 1-10, 10 being that you are Mother Theresa-level virtuous, 1 being you are a depraved ingrate. (Please know I am kidding, please know I am kidding, please know I am kidding.)

As you peruse this list, you might find that some of these virtues mean exactly the same thing to you. If that happens, then skip the doubles. My philosopher husband and I defined them each as something different, but that does not make our definitions correct. Whatever the words mean to you is entirely valid. If some of them are too spiritual or religious-y for you, then skip them, too.

Remember, this list was originally intended as a blueprint for how we wanted to raise our children, not as an indictment of us as people. Low scores do not make us bad people, they make us human. Same is true for you. Low scores indicate that you are self-aware. (Self-awareness is not on my list, but Lucidity is. Rate yourself accordingly, my friend!)

Ready? Let’s do this, you depraved ingrate. (Please know I am kidding, please know I am kidding.)

The Virtue Game:

Acceptance

Affection

Authenticity

Authority

Availability

Bravery

Brotherly Love

Candor

Clarity

Commitment

Compassion

Consistency

Contemplation

Contentment

Conviction

Cooperation

Courage

Courtesy

Creativity

Curiosity

Decisiveness

Determination

Dignity

Diligence

Discernment

Discipline

Discretion

Efficiency

Endurance

Enthusiasm

Fairness

Faith

Faithfulness

Forgiveness

Friendship

Frugality

Generosity

Gentleness

Godliness

Goodness

Graciousness

Gratitude

Gravitas

Honesty

Honor

Hope

Hospitality

Humility

Humor

Impartiality

Individuality

Industriousness

Initiative

Innocence

Integrity

Intelligence

Joy

Justice

Kindness

Knowledge

Learning

Lightheartedness

Listening

Love

Loyalty

Lucidity

Memory

Mercy

Moderation

Modesty

Objectivity

Obedience

Observation

Orderliness

Patience

Patriotism

Peace

Perseverance

Prudence

Reasonableness

Regularity

Resourcefulness

Respect

Responsibility

Rigor

Self-Control

Self-Esteem

Serenity

Seriousness

Simplicity

Stewardship

Teachability

Teamwork

Temperance

Tenacity

Tolerance

Trust

Uprightness

Wisdom

Wonder

Zeal

Round-up

I know it’s not fun to examine our faults. Believe me, I know. But I think that there is such a great benefit to doing it–it is so liberating to be authentic and honest with ourselves about it, that the discomfort is totally worth it.

Hopefully a few of the bottom feeders on your little quiz will become swiftly apparent. As you look at that list, does it evoke any specific memories for you? Can you imagine what it would look like for that virtue to be a 6 rather than a 2? What would have to change in your life for that to happen?

Episode 40: Loving Yourself at the Holidays Sing With Your Feet

Talking Points: Unhooking ourselves from the expectations of others; the lowest common denominator for joy; imagining our ideal holidays; taking care of ourselves. A great big thank you to Seven Productions in Mulhouse, France, for the use of the song La Joie as the intro and outtro of the show; to Matt Kugler who sang it and Claude Ekwe who wrote it.
  1. Episode 40: Loving Yourself at the Holidays
  2. Episode 39: Leaving a Commitment
  3. Episode 38: Let's Do This!
  4. Episode 37: I Need to Think!
  5. Episode 36: What Isn't Working?

Published by Lily Fields

I am passionate about contentment. This is a challenge, because I am equally passionate about progress. I get up at 4:00AM to chip away at a solution to this monolithic problem: how to make progress on my contentment. Born and raised in the USA, I married a French philosophy teacher in 1999. We have lived in France since 2007. We stayed young and carefree until life threw us two curveballs in the form of little humans one after another in 2015 and 2017 respectively. Now I am a slightly older, slightly more exhausted version of myself, but with mystery stains on my walls and a never-ending pile of laundry.

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