This is my first roundup of the highlights from my Golden Rule resolution….that is…my resolution to live out the Golden Rule in as many ways as possible in 2023.
First up, whereas this, pre-scalawags had been something we always used to do, but had stopped doing it in the last few years. It is so so incredibly tiny that I am embarrassed to admit that it was a highlight of my week, but here goes: when I went to brush my teeth this week, I put toothpaste on my husband’s toothbrush, too.
I know. It’s insignificant. But it is something that, in the past, used to make me feel really loved. So I decided that if it was something that would make me feel loved, then it had the potential to make him feel loved. And if I would want to feel loved, then I should do it for him.
Judge me. It was a highlight of my week.
Another incredibly small thing: I was putting my face on one morning this week, listening to a true crime podcast (as one does…) when my eldest came in and “just wanted to talk.”
I may have sighed a little, because on Dateline, Josh Mankiewicz was making a snarky comment to a woman who had been having an affair about how her behavior seemed awfully suspicious, (which was definitely a highlight of my week). I hit the pause button so my eldest and I could talk about…the taillights on Mini Coopers. (Thrilling, thrilling thrilling.)
If I needed connection with someone I loved, and just “wanted to talk”, and that someone was listening to a murder/mystery podcast, I would want them to prioritize me, too. So I muted Josh Mankiewicz. (Sorry, Josh.)
Lastly, I set up a rotation with my boys so that each one of them would have one night a week where they would choose our meal, help me prepare it, they would set, serve and clear the table.
I did this, not because I want to double the preparation time of meals twice a week and have to deal with all the complaining and they whining (which I love, as you can imagine.) I did this because I would want someone to teach me basic life skills too, and would want someone to put up with all my whining and complaining in the process.
This was, in spite of the whining and complaining, a success.
Sure, I failed this week, too. I’ll save telling you about those for another time.
Be great this week. Listen to the podcast!

Great resolution, think I will give it a try. Thanks for sharing!
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Please let me know how it goes! I’m successful about 75% of the time so far…which isn’t as good as I hoped, but it’s a start!
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Will do!
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I muted my stuff to listen to my daughter, 35 yo. It definitely shows love when you choose personal attention over the other things.
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I had never considered how *hard* (that’s me whining) it can be to be truly present for the people we love! But those little gestures mean so much!
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It’s definitely a choice! And yes, it means a lot to the other person!
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