Week 1: The Golden Rule Rules

This is my first roundup of the highlights from my Golden Rule resolution….that is…my resolution to live out the Golden Rule in as many ways as possible in 2023.

First up, whereas this, pre-scalawags had been something we always used to do, but had stopped doing it in the last few years. It is so so incredibly tiny that I am embarrassed to admit that it was a highlight of my week, but here goes: when I went to brush my teeth this week, I put toothpaste on my husband’s toothbrush, too.

I know. It’s insignificant. But it is something that, in the past, used to make me feel really loved. So I decided that if it was something that would make me feel loved, then it had the potential to make him feel loved. And if I would want to feel loved, then I should do it for him.

Judge me. It was a highlight of my week.

Another incredibly small thing: I was putting my face on one morning this week, listening to a true crime podcast (as one does…) when my eldest came in and “just wanted to talk.”

I may have sighed a little, because on Dateline, Josh Mankiewicz was making a snarky comment to a woman who had been having an affair about how her behavior seemed awfully suspicious, (which was definitely a highlight of my week). I hit the pause button so my eldest and I could talk about…the taillights on Mini Coopers. (Thrilling, thrilling thrilling.)

If I needed connection with someone I loved, and just “wanted to talk”, and that someone was listening to a murder/mystery podcast, I would want them to prioritize me, too. So I muted Josh Mankiewicz. (Sorry, Josh.)

Lastly, I set up a rotation with my boys so that each one of them would have one night a week where they would choose our meal, help me prepare it, they would set, serve and clear the table.

I did this, not because I want to double the preparation time of meals twice a week and have to deal with all the complaining and they whining (which I love, as you can imagine.) I did this because I would want someone to teach me basic life skills too, and would want someone to put up with all my whining and complaining in the process.

This was, in spite of the whining and complaining, a success.

Sure, I failed this week, too. I’ll save telling you about those for another time.

Be great this week. Listen to the podcast!

Episode 47: Dressing for Your Ideal Life Sing With Your Feet

Talking Points: Heartspace and Headspace; the recursive shapes of our life; Mise en Place and decisions.  When we know what we want for our life, it makes all of our decisions easier–including what we wear.  Thank you to Seven Productions in Mulhouse France for the use of the song "La Joie" as the intro and outtro of the show, to Matt Kugler who sang it and Claude Ekwe who wrote it.
  1. Episode 47: Dressing for Your Ideal Life
  2. Episode 46: Closet Inventory
  3. Episode 45: Wardrobe Therapy
  4. Episode 44: Facing Disappointment
  5. Episode 43: Where Are You Going?

Published by Lily Fields

I am passionate about contentment. This is a challenge, because I am equally passionate about progress. I get up at 4:00AM to chip away at a solution to this monolithic problem: how to make progress on my contentment. Born and raised in the USA, I married a French philosophy teacher in 1999. We have lived in France since 2007. We stayed young and carefree until life threw us two curveballs in the form of little humans one after another in 2015 and 2017 respectively. Now I am a slightly older, slightly more exhausted version of myself, but with mystery stains on my walls and a never-ending pile of laundry.

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