You know me by now, right? I like rules. I like to make rules and I like holding myself accountable to rules. So obviously, when Lily Fields makes a New Year’s Resolution, it comes with rules. I find that this helps break down a resolution into smaller chunks, making it hard to fail entirely, which, as you may imagine, I am loathe to do.
Fairy godmothers do not fail.
So when it comes to my resolution to live out the Golden Rule, or, as I am calling my little attempt at loving others as I love myself and doing for others what I would them to do for me, “The Golden Rule Rules”, I need a few rules. Thus the strange title of this article.
- When my first reaction is “no” because I want to stay comfortably doing whatever I was doing, I need to change it to a “yes” and do what I would want done for me.
- When my response is a “no” for a health or safety reason, I need to explain it.
- When I have said “yes” after an I initial “no”, I need to make sure to connect with the scalawag as I do whatever it is…not just “do it for them”.
- If anything takes less than a minute, I must do it now.
- Pray for the people I love.
- Let the people I love know I am thinking about them when it pops up.
- Small, insignificant but ultimately meaningful gestures of love are de rigueur. (Sending the elevator back to the garage for a neighbor, putting toothpaste on toothbrushes, putting away everyone’s laundry even though they are perfectly capable of doing it themselves.)
- Refrain from grumbling about the insignificant gestures.
- Hug liberally.
- Explain things patiently.
- Ask for help when I need it.
- Give undivided attention.
- Speak kindly to and of others.
That’s it. Them’s the rules. It sounds so easy, but I assure you that for a short-fused, self-centered creature of comfort such as myself, it is anything but.
So there we have it. The building blocks of this year’s resolution.
PS: I am currently staring down a pile of folded laundry that belongs to someone in my house that has been sitting here for four days, and yes, I have been grumbling about it. I have been resisting putting it away for this person, because I want to make sure I am doing it for the right reason: because it is what I would want someone to do for me, and not just because I am sick and tired of looking at this tower of laundry.
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Thank you… I need to check my motivation when I do things for others.
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