Week 3: Being Still

According to the rules of my New Year’s Resolution, I’m meant to be doing for others what I would want done for me. This *should* be easy, right? Surprise surprise, this has become an increasingly mindbending endeavor. This requires a clarity of thought that I don’t often have in abundance. “What would I want doneContinue reading “Week 3: Being Still”

Week 2: A Golden Rule Conundrum

I had just spent a good thirty minutes folding clothes. They were not mine, because my clothes get the royal treatment. I usually hang mine up as they leave the washer, so that they dry nicely. I know. It’s selfish. But whatever. Call it self care. “Okay, everybody! Come get your laundry and put itContinue reading “Week 2: A Golden Rule Conundrum”

The “Golden Rule Rules” Rules

You know me by now, right? I like rules. I like to make rules and I like holding myself accountable to rules. So obviously, when Lily Fields makes a New Year’s Resolution, it comes with rules. I find that this helps break down a resolution into smaller chunks, making it hard to fail entirely, which,Continue reading “The “Golden Rule Rules” Rules”

Week 1: The Golden Rule Rules

This is my first roundup of the highlights from my Golden Rule resolution….that is…my resolution to live out the Golden Rule in as many ways as possible in 2023. First up, whereas this, pre-scalawags had been something we always used to do, but had stopped doing it in the last few years. It is soContinue reading “Week 1: The Golden Rule Rules”

Love Languages: A Superpower

I mentioned something in this week’s podcast in a rather off-handed way that I want to take a little deeper. Respect for oneself is the ultimate form of self-love. Once we respect ourselves, we will start making decisions that are good for us.“ Lily Fields, Philosopher Princess Remember what we have been saying since-well–forever? SinceContinue reading “Love Languages: A Superpower”

Love Languages: When it seems too easy

Remember that meme I talked about? The one with the lady who’s sitting, talking on the phone with a girlfriend and she says, “Oh, I’m just over here overthinking the joy out of everything.”? Welcome to that edition of talking about Love Languages. Remember, we are in the thick of a discussion of how itContinue reading “Love Languages: When it seems too easy”

On Humility and the Love Languages

I’m going to gush about someone today. He’s someone who I don’t think even knows this blog exists, and there is little risk whatsoever that he ever read this article. This person is my father-in-law. As a matter of fact, if he knew what I am about to say, I’m not sure he would knowContinue reading “On Humility and the Love Languages”

Love Languages: Easier Said Than Done

“Love is a many splendored thing. Love, lift us up where be long…All you need is love.” Thus begins the Elephant Love Medley from the Baz Luhrmann film Moulin Rouge. It sounds best if you imagine it in Ewan MacGregor’s pretty brogue. Theoretically, I love love. I enjoy the feelings of love, at least, asContinue reading “Love Languages: Easier Said Than Done”

Mid-Life Crisis and the Love Languages

Have you ever been listening to someone complain about another person and suddenly started feeling sweaty? Nervous? It can be about something stupid, like a husband who forgot to put the cap back on the toothpaste. And suddenly you want to find an exit as soon as possible. Something this small shouldn’t effect you thisContinue reading “Mid-Life Crisis and the Love Languages”

Love Languages: Becoming Fluent

It’s February. February is home to my second-favorite holiday. The first being Thanksgiving, because I just love a day that it set aside to say “Thank You.” No, I don’t love the cultural baggage attached to Thanksgiving. But a day for gratitude is a good day in my book. Valentine’s Day is my second-favorite holiday.Continue reading “Love Languages: Becoming Fluent”