The Art of Waiting

We all have gotten some pretty fabulous practice at waiting over the last eighteen months, haven’t we? I have said this before, but I will say it again: I needed this pandemic. In many ways, as it was happening, I felt like it was all my fault. It was my fault because I had gottenContinue reading “The Art of Waiting”

Stop Holding Your Breath

In June, when I started brainstorming my summer, I came to the thought that I desperately needed to find a way to get some order into my days. I needed to know where everyone was going to need to be when. I needed some kind of system that wasn’t something no one would use. ItContinue reading “Stop Holding Your Breath”

Raising Bilingual Superheroes

I never expected to be a parent. It was never on my bucket list. Even less did I expect to be a parent to two children who speak better French than I do. Seriously. There is nothing more humbling than being corrected by a four year-old. However, as we say in French, this was notContinue reading “Raising Bilingual Superheroes”

Putting Mise en Place to Work

Engineering my summer Project Three: Making family life less painful After an entire month of May extolling the virtues of the life-alteringly simple process of Mise en Place, I had a startling revelation: There is Mise en Place that I used to do and that had made my life easier. For some reason, I hadContinue reading “Putting Mise en Place to Work”


By setting out to write one article for each of my Ideal Life themes, I took this horse outta the barn. Because I am a rule-follower and finisher, I’m going to awkwardly try to ride it. It might be a bumpy, uncomfortable ride. I apologize in advance. I am a natural enthusiast. When I likeContinue reading “Sexuality”

A Clean House

To come round out my unfitness as a wife and mother is another wholly socially unacceptable gem of a character trait: I am a terrible terrible terrible terrible housekeeper. Don’t get me wrong. I love a clean house. I love a sparkly floor or a clean shower-thing-you-put-the-soap-on. I don’t just passively dislike housekeeping. I activelyContinue reading “A Clean House”

Schedule and Family Life

I don’t know if retro-planning is real word or one I invented, but it has been what I have been known for introducing to single place I ever worked. It means starting as far out as possible from an event date and counting backwards to the current date, scheduling through the steps and tiny detailsContinue reading “Schedule and Family Life”


I am going to preface everything you are going to read in this article by saying that the choices my husband and I have made about how to live are not typical. We decided, from the very beginning of our marriage, nearly twenty-two years ago, to live in such a way that only one ofContinue reading “Work”


Full disclosure: I’ve been married for almost twenty-two years and still haven’t figured marriage out yet. Also FYI: most of the conflicts we have in our marriage are my fault. Really. I’m not exaggerating or being self-deprecating in any way. I am impossible to live with. Thus why it is one of my core IdealContinue reading “Marriage”

Ideal Life Week Three

Let’s recap: The Ideal Life Exercise is an idiosyncratic way to help make progress towards what we think should be our Ideal Life, based a long series of In my Ideal Life I am a person who… statements. These statements might take one day write, or a month to write. It doesn’t matter how longContinue reading “Ideal Life Week Three”