Love Languages: Easier Said Than Done

“Love is a many splendored thing. Love, lift us up where be long…All you need is love.” Thus begins the Elephant Love Medley from the Baz Luhrmann film Moulin Rouge. It sounds best if you imagine it in Ewan MacGregor’s pretty brogue. Theoretically, I love love. I enjoy the feelings of love, at least, asContinue reading “Love Languages: Easier Said Than Done”

Mid-Life Crisis and the Love Languages

Have you ever been listening to someone complain about another person and suddenly started feeling sweaty? Nervous? It can be about something stupid, like a husband who forgot to put the cap back on the toothpaste. And suddenly you want to find an exit as soon as possible. Something this small shouldn’t effect you thisContinue reading “Mid-Life Crisis and the Love Languages”

The Ideal Life Round-Up: Personal Style

I am thankful that you, my reader, knows me well enough to not judge my flightiness of character. That there would be a theme in my Ideal Life called “personal style” seems so insignificant amid all the other things to be worrying about these days. And yet…and yet. This is why I got started inContinue reading “The Ideal Life Round-Up: Personal Style”

Can people be mistakes?

As soon as humanly possible after the first scalawag was born, I became pregnant with our second scalawag, and I did it on purpose. Can I say this, just between us? That was the stupidest thing I’ve ever intentionally done. There are all kinds of caveats to that last statement, notably, that my littlest scalawagContinue reading “Can people be mistakes?”

Decluttering and Mental Health

I wish I had a magic potion that would put me in the mood to be brutally objective about all the stuff I have managed to accumulate over the years. If I could market that magic potion just right….oh the possibilities. There is a complex web of reasons why I hang on to items thatContinue reading “Decluttering and Mental Health”

The Art of Waiting

We all have gotten some pretty fabulous practice at waiting over the last eighteen months, haven’t we? I have said this before, but I will say it again: I needed this pandemic. In many ways, as it was happening, I felt like it was all my fault. It was my fault because I had gottenContinue reading “The Art of Waiting”

Are you happy?

“Est-ce que vous êtes heureux?” (Are you happy?). This is what the founding pastor of our church used to say every time he would greet us on a Sunday morning. “No. I’m not happy.” I would grumble under my breath. “And, FYI, God isn’t mad at me because I’m not happy.” Yeah, I’m a charmerContinue reading “Are you happy?”

The Divine Spark

I spend my five minutes of Ideal Life Exercise-ing on Sundays thinking about my Spiritual Life. Not to do my Bible reading, or to pray, but to sit back and think about how things are going in this one relationship that is my most critically important one. Very often, this leads to a much longerContinue reading “The Divine Spark”

The Great 2021 Bathrobe Refashion

In July 2015 I bought the perfect bathrobe. I needed it, or so I had been told, for the delivery room, where I was destined to give birth to my first child. When I discovered it wedged in among the silky bathrobes on the clearance rack at the store, it felt like such a find.Continue reading “The Great 2021 Bathrobe Refashion”

Coming back to the surface

Once of the wonderful things about Mise en Place is that whether it is a habit that you do every single day for the rest of your life, or something you do on one-off occasions, there is always a benefit to doing it. It’s not like deciding to, oh, I don’t know, stop snacking betweenContinue reading “Coming back to the surface”