Week 1: The Golden Rule Rules

This is my first roundup of the highlights from my Golden Rule resolution….that is…my resolution to live out the Golden Rule in as many ways as possible in 2023. First up, whereas this, pre-scalawags had been something we always used to do, but had stopped doing it in the last few years. It is soContinue reading “Week 1: The Golden Rule Rules”

Week 48: Anger, Snuggles and Resolutions

This year, I set myself 22 little goals to pursue throughout the year. I call them the 22 in 22. Once a week (or there abouts), I take a few minutes to check my progress on a few of my goals. #1 Connect better with the scalawags, according to their Love Languages It’s not oftenContinue reading “Week 48: Anger, Snuggles and Resolutions”


Vacations are never an easy time at Casa Fields. The two week winter break back in February, although punctuated by a brief period of respite for me personally, was overshadowed by an uncomfortable, nagging unpleasant attitude of negotiation. I’m not a haggler. I don’t care about making a deal. The sooner a transaction is overContinue reading “Negotiation”

Love Languages: A Superpower

I mentioned something in this week’s podcast in a rather off-handed way that I want to take a little deeper. Respect for oneself is the ultimate form of self-love. Once we respect ourselves, we will start making decisions that are good for us.“ Lily Fields, Philosopher Princess Remember what we have been saying since-well–forever? SinceContinue reading “Love Languages: A Superpower”

Love Languages: When it seems too easy

Remember that meme I talked about? The one with the lady who’s sitting, talking on the phone with a girlfriend and she says, “Oh, I’m just over here overthinking the joy out of everything.”? Welcome to that edition of talking about Love Languages. Remember, we are in the thick of a discussion of how itContinue reading “Love Languages: When it seems too easy”

On Humility and the Love Languages

I’m going to gush about someone today. He’s someone who I don’t think even knows this blog exists, and there is little risk whatsoever that he ever read this article. This person is my father-in-law. As a matter of fact, if he knew what I am about to say, I’m not sure he would knowContinue reading “On Humility and the Love Languages”

Love Languages: Easier Said Than Done

“Love is a many splendored thing. Love, lift us up where be long…All you need is love.” Thus begins the Elephant Love Medley from the Baz Luhrmann film Moulin Rouge. It sounds best if you imagine it in Ewan MacGregor’s pretty brogue. Theoretically, I love love. I enjoy the feelings of love, at least, asContinue reading “Love Languages: Easier Said Than Done”

Love Languages: Becoming Fluent

It’s February. February is home to my second-favorite holiday. The first being Thanksgiving, because I just love a day that it set aside to say “Thank You.” No, I don’t love the cultural baggage attached to Thanksgiving. But a day for gratitude is a good day in my book. Valentine’s Day is my second-favorite holiday.Continue reading “Love Languages: Becoming Fluent”

The Ideal Life Round-Up: Parenting

Here we were, 5:00 on Christmas morning, and I was almost 100% sure I knew how this was going to go down. I knew for a fact that my boys would see all the bounty under the tree, and that even before they would start opening their presents, that my eldest would cry about somethingContinue reading “The Ideal Life Round-Up: Parenting”

Gift Giving Gone Awry

A while back, I wrote a series about gift-giving, and some characteristics to consider about the gift-receiver as we began the holiday season. I called them “Gift-Receiver Templates” (I’ll put links to the articles at the end, if you’re interested.) Well. Let’s put this anecdote into the “I should have known better” category, shall we?Continue reading “Gift Giving Gone Awry”